wedding guidelines
An Introductory Note
Marriage is a gift of God, intended for the joy and mutual strength of those who enter it and for the well-being of the whole human family. God created us and blessed humankind with the gifts of companionship, the capacity to love, and the care and nurture of children. Jesus affirmed the covenant of marriage and revealed God’s own self-giving love on the cross. The Holy Spirit helps those who are united in marriage to be living signs of God’s grace, love, and faithful.
Marriage is also a human estate, with vows publicly witnessed. The church in worship surrounds these promises with the gathering of God’s people, the witness of the word of God, and prayers of blessing and intercession.
~Evangelical Lutheran Worship notes on Wedding Services
Marriage is a gift of God, intended for the joy and mutual strength of those who enter it and for the well-being of the whole human family. God created us and blessed humankind with the gifts of companionship, the capacity to love, and the care and nurture of children. Jesus affirmed the covenant of marriage and revealed God’s own self-giving love on the cross. The Holy Spirit helps those who are united in marriage to be living signs of God’s grace, love, and faithful.
Marriage is also a human estate, with vows publicly witnessed. The church in worship surrounds these promises with the gathering of God’s people, the witness of the word of God, and prayers of blessing and intercession.
~Evangelical Lutheran Worship notes on Wedding Services
common questions
What is a Christian Wedding?
A Christian wedding is a worship service. The guest of honor is our Lord God. However, the couple has the blessing to give us the opportunity to worship God and honor God’s love and faithfulness. It is a joyful celebration which points to a Christ-centered lifestyle and lifts up the love between the couple as a specific expression and reflection of God’s love.
Why have a Church Wedding?
A “Church” wedding is not necessarily a Christian wedding. Many people choose to get married in a church for a variety of reasons. However, when a couple is married at OSLC, we strongly encourage them to be active and engaged in the life of this community. This is how we uphold our promise to love, support, and walk with the couple as they grow in faith as children of God.
Couples are encouraged to consider exchanging their vows in the context of a regular weekend worship service, rather than separate from the worshiping community.
Can we get married in a different location?
Yes. In that case, the OSLC facility fees do not apply. However, there will still be a $200 honorarium fee for the pastor. To make arrangements, please speak with the pastor directly. He/she can work with you individually on setting a date that works and negotiating other details that the pastor may be responsible for.
Do we have to be members of OSLC?
No. The costs are the same for members and non-members. While preference for dates is given to members, we do not want couples joining this community in name only, seeking cheaper rates. We do, however, emphasize the importance of a strong faith community for the health of a marriage. We do reserve the right to decline a wedding request, particularly if the values of the couple do not reflect the values of OSLC.
How does the pre-marital counseling work?
OSLC uses a pre-marital inventory called Prepare and Enrich. You will each be sent an e-mail from the P&E website that will allow you to log on and answer questions separately. The questionnaire takes about 45 minutes to complete. In February, all of the couples getting married that year meet for a pre-marital class, let by the Pastor. We discuss the inventory, the wedding service, and marriage. This is an opportunity to connect with others and learn from one another. If further counseling and conversation is indicated, the Pastor will schedule that with the couple.
Coordinators
Each couple is assigned two wedding coordinators who walk with you from the beginning to the end of this process. They will meet with you several times before your big day and work with you on the details of your wedding, scheduling the events surrounding the wedding, answer questions, help you set up, and coordinate things at the church before and after the rehearsal and the service. They will also help you through the details of your reception, should you decide to have that at the church, as well.
The Service
Outline
The wedding service is typical for most Lutheran churches. We include prayers over the couple, commitments by the couple and the congregation, vows, blessings, and the Lord’s Prayer.
Vows
Included in this brochure are five options for your vows. You may choose one, combine more than one, or write your own. Remember, a vow is a promise. If you write your own, each person should make the same promise to one another. We do not encourage memorization of vows but will help you through what you need to say, when you need to say it.
Holy Communion
Holy Communion is a very faithful and appropriate way in which to allow God’s love to be expressed through the community that is gathered around the couple. OSLC practices an open communion and turns no one away from the Lord’s Table. However, if you anticipate that several attendees may not, based on their own tradition, feel comfortable communing at this service or in this congregation, we do not encourage including this element. No one should feel excluded from the celebration at hand.
“Traditions”
There is no provision in the services at OSLC to ‘give the bride away.’ This custom assumes a medieval understanding of women as property.
There is also no occasion in which the Pastor will give the couple ‘permission’ to kiss. We assume that for most couples, that has already taken place without the Pastor’s expressed consent.
The Space
The couple may work with the worship space just before and after the rehearsal, as well as the day of the service in order to decorate the space.
Church Capacity
The Sanctuary holds up to 350 people (not including the balcony). The Chapel is a perfect place for a more intimate setting. The Chapel holds up to 100 people.
Pew Decorations
Bows and flowers may be used to decorate the ends of pews. Please do not use tape. Ribbon, string, or twine is preferred.
Candles
The Eucharistic candles for worship always remain on either side of the communion table. In addition, couples have the option to use pew candles and candelabra. Both are a pewter color. It is the couple’s responsibility to purchase the necessary candles and prepare them for use. Hand-held candles are not permitted.
A unity candle (or other ‘unity’ items) may be used. There are preferred places where these items may be placed.
Paraments
These are the linens used to decorate the lectern and altar. They are seasonal fabrics used for worship and do not change for the wedding.
Photography and Videography
Photography
Flash pictures become a distraction from the service. Therefore, we request that NO FLASH PICTURES BE TAKEN DURING THE SERVICE (the service begins once the couple reaches the front of the Sanctuary and the Pastor begins the Invocation). Photographers and Videographers may capture the wedding service, but need to stay stationary and cannot approach the chancel area. The balcony is often a good place for a video set-up.
Formal pictures can be taken before and/or after the service. You are welcome to use the Sanctuary, Atrium, outside areas, and courtyard for pictures. If you take location photos off-site, please make sure that the wedding party is back at the church at least 45 minutes before the service begins. If pictures are taken in the Sanctuary, please make sure they are finished and the equipment is cleaned up at least 45 minutes before the service begins.
If you want to include the Pastor in any formal photographs, please inform him or her ahead of time regarding when and where those pictures will be taken.
Bulletins/Programs
It is the responsibility of the couple to supply bulletins or programs for the wedding service. You can receive an outline of the service from the Pastor to help with the bulletin set-up. If the service is in the Sanctuary, OSLC will put together the powerpoint show for the words to hymns and corporate prayers. Additional photos or slideshows are the couple’s responsibility and will be included only at the discretion of the Pastor.
The Music
Not all music is appropriate for worship. You will have an opportunity to meet with a staff musician to help you decide what music fits your wedding service and when it can and should be played.
Musicians
Included in the price of the wedding is the service of one OSLC-provided musician. Any additional or outside musicians must be contacted by the couple and paid accordingly.
Instruments
Our worship spaces each house a piano and an organ. Musicians not provided by OSLC must have permission to use the organ, and must meet with the OSLC organist before doing so. Use of both the piano and organ require that the musician wash their hands and refrain from setting anything other than music on the instruments.
Musicians may choose to play non-keyboard music. In that instance, they will need to bring their own instrument/s. If there is concern or question about the appropriateness of the instrument, please contact the Pastor or OSLC musician.
Hymns
Hymns are a very helpful way to include the congregation of family and friends in the celebration of the service. There are many appropriate hymns of praise, worship, and honor. Please consider including one or two in your service.
Soloists
There are several occasions during the service for which solo music may be appropriate. Please note the information regarding additional musicians explained above.
Recorded Music
Due to copyright issues, we do not permit the use of pre-recorded music, with the possible exception of accompaniment used for a soloist.
The ‘Little’ Things
Changing Rooms
There are places for the wedding party to change prior to the service and photographs. Please make sure these areas are cleaned up afterwards. OSLC will not be held responsible for any missing items.
Rice, Confetti, Birdseed
These items can cause difficulties in cleaning and may even be a safety hazard on the sidewalks, so please do not distribute these items. Bubbles and bells are much preferred alternatives.
Children
Young children involved in the service are encouraged to sit with their family when the congregation sits down. Older children may remain standing with the wedding party.
Aisle Runners
Aisle runners are not allowed due to safety concerns.
Guest Book and Gift Tables
Tables are provided, as well as table cloths. It is the responsibility of the couple to bring a guest book and pen. It is also up to the couple to provide someone to be in charge of these areas before the service. Wedding coordinators will be present during the service, but it is suggested that cards and gifts be loaded up shortly after the service ends.
Clean-up
It is the responsibility of the couple to provide someone to clean up the changing rooms, load up personal items, and take care of all decorations and service items immediately after the service.
Limo’s
If you choose to have a limousine pick you up from the church, they MUST enter from C St., park in front of the east Sanctuary exit, and exit onto Mohawk St.
SCHEDULING CONSIDERATIONS
All scheduling must be approved by the Pastor and the congregational Office Manager.
Saturday Weddings
The latest time we will schedule a wedding service is at 4:00 pm, due to our 5:30 pm Saturday evening worship services.
Non-Saturday Weddings
Couples may consider holding their wedding service on a day other than Saturday. Friday and Sunday weddings may be a better option for you and your loved ones. Please consult with the Pastor regarding this option.
Rehearsals
Rehearsals will take place the evening before the wedding. Plan on approximately one hour for the rehearsal. The wedding party is expected to be prompt for the rehearsal, as well as the wedding.
A Christian wedding is a worship service. The guest of honor is our Lord God. However, the couple has the blessing to give us the opportunity to worship God and honor God’s love and faithfulness. It is a joyful celebration which points to a Christ-centered lifestyle and lifts up the love between the couple as a specific expression and reflection of God’s love.
Why have a Church Wedding?
A “Church” wedding is not necessarily a Christian wedding. Many people choose to get married in a church for a variety of reasons. However, when a couple is married at OSLC, we strongly encourage them to be active and engaged in the life of this community. This is how we uphold our promise to love, support, and walk with the couple as they grow in faith as children of God.
Couples are encouraged to consider exchanging their vows in the context of a regular weekend worship service, rather than separate from the worshiping community.
Can we get married in a different location?
Yes. In that case, the OSLC facility fees do not apply. However, there will still be a $200 honorarium fee for the pastor. To make arrangements, please speak with the pastor directly. He/she can work with you individually on setting a date that works and negotiating other details that the pastor may be responsible for.
Do we have to be members of OSLC?
No. The costs are the same for members and non-members. While preference for dates is given to members, we do not want couples joining this community in name only, seeking cheaper rates. We do, however, emphasize the importance of a strong faith community for the health of a marriage. We do reserve the right to decline a wedding request, particularly if the values of the couple do not reflect the values of OSLC.
How does the pre-marital counseling work?
OSLC uses a pre-marital inventory called Prepare and Enrich. You will each be sent an e-mail from the P&E website that will allow you to log on and answer questions separately. The questionnaire takes about 45 minutes to complete. In February, all of the couples getting married that year meet for a pre-marital class, let by the Pastor. We discuss the inventory, the wedding service, and marriage. This is an opportunity to connect with others and learn from one another. If further counseling and conversation is indicated, the Pastor will schedule that with the couple.
Coordinators
Each couple is assigned two wedding coordinators who walk with you from the beginning to the end of this process. They will meet with you several times before your big day and work with you on the details of your wedding, scheduling the events surrounding the wedding, answer questions, help you set up, and coordinate things at the church before and after the rehearsal and the service. They will also help you through the details of your reception, should you decide to have that at the church, as well.
The Service
Outline
The wedding service is typical for most Lutheran churches. We include prayers over the couple, commitments by the couple and the congregation, vows, blessings, and the Lord’s Prayer.
Vows
Included in this brochure are five options for your vows. You may choose one, combine more than one, or write your own. Remember, a vow is a promise. If you write your own, each person should make the same promise to one another. We do not encourage memorization of vows but will help you through what you need to say, when you need to say it.
Holy Communion
Holy Communion is a very faithful and appropriate way in which to allow God’s love to be expressed through the community that is gathered around the couple. OSLC practices an open communion and turns no one away from the Lord’s Table. However, if you anticipate that several attendees may not, based on their own tradition, feel comfortable communing at this service or in this congregation, we do not encourage including this element. No one should feel excluded from the celebration at hand.
“Traditions”
There is no provision in the services at OSLC to ‘give the bride away.’ This custom assumes a medieval understanding of women as property.
There is also no occasion in which the Pastor will give the couple ‘permission’ to kiss. We assume that for most couples, that has already taken place without the Pastor’s expressed consent.
The Space
The couple may work with the worship space just before and after the rehearsal, as well as the day of the service in order to decorate the space.
Church Capacity
The Sanctuary holds up to 350 people (not including the balcony). The Chapel is a perfect place for a more intimate setting. The Chapel holds up to 100 people.
Pew Decorations
Bows and flowers may be used to decorate the ends of pews. Please do not use tape. Ribbon, string, or twine is preferred.
Candles
The Eucharistic candles for worship always remain on either side of the communion table. In addition, couples have the option to use pew candles and candelabra. Both are a pewter color. It is the couple’s responsibility to purchase the necessary candles and prepare them for use. Hand-held candles are not permitted.
A unity candle (or other ‘unity’ items) may be used. There are preferred places where these items may be placed.
Paraments
These are the linens used to decorate the lectern and altar. They are seasonal fabrics used for worship and do not change for the wedding.
Photography and Videography
Photography
Flash pictures become a distraction from the service. Therefore, we request that NO FLASH PICTURES BE TAKEN DURING THE SERVICE (the service begins once the couple reaches the front of the Sanctuary and the Pastor begins the Invocation). Photographers and Videographers may capture the wedding service, but need to stay stationary and cannot approach the chancel area. The balcony is often a good place for a video set-up.
Formal pictures can be taken before and/or after the service. You are welcome to use the Sanctuary, Atrium, outside areas, and courtyard for pictures. If you take location photos off-site, please make sure that the wedding party is back at the church at least 45 minutes before the service begins. If pictures are taken in the Sanctuary, please make sure they are finished and the equipment is cleaned up at least 45 minutes before the service begins.
If you want to include the Pastor in any formal photographs, please inform him or her ahead of time regarding when and where those pictures will be taken.
Bulletins/Programs
It is the responsibility of the couple to supply bulletins or programs for the wedding service. You can receive an outline of the service from the Pastor to help with the bulletin set-up. If the service is in the Sanctuary, OSLC will put together the powerpoint show for the words to hymns and corporate prayers. Additional photos or slideshows are the couple’s responsibility and will be included only at the discretion of the Pastor.
The Music
Not all music is appropriate for worship. You will have an opportunity to meet with a staff musician to help you decide what music fits your wedding service and when it can and should be played.
Musicians
Included in the price of the wedding is the service of one OSLC-provided musician. Any additional or outside musicians must be contacted by the couple and paid accordingly.
Instruments
Our worship spaces each house a piano and an organ. Musicians not provided by OSLC must have permission to use the organ, and must meet with the OSLC organist before doing so. Use of both the piano and organ require that the musician wash their hands and refrain from setting anything other than music on the instruments.
Musicians may choose to play non-keyboard music. In that instance, they will need to bring their own instrument/s. If there is concern or question about the appropriateness of the instrument, please contact the Pastor or OSLC musician.
Hymns
Hymns are a very helpful way to include the congregation of family and friends in the celebration of the service. There are many appropriate hymns of praise, worship, and honor. Please consider including one or two in your service.
Soloists
There are several occasions during the service for which solo music may be appropriate. Please note the information regarding additional musicians explained above.
Recorded Music
Due to copyright issues, we do not permit the use of pre-recorded music, with the possible exception of accompaniment used for a soloist.
The ‘Little’ Things
Changing Rooms
There are places for the wedding party to change prior to the service and photographs. Please make sure these areas are cleaned up afterwards. OSLC will not be held responsible for any missing items.
Rice, Confetti, Birdseed
These items can cause difficulties in cleaning and may even be a safety hazard on the sidewalks, so please do not distribute these items. Bubbles and bells are much preferred alternatives.
Children
Young children involved in the service are encouraged to sit with their family when the congregation sits down. Older children may remain standing with the wedding party.
Aisle Runners
Aisle runners are not allowed due to safety concerns.
Guest Book and Gift Tables
Tables are provided, as well as table cloths. It is the responsibility of the couple to bring a guest book and pen. It is also up to the couple to provide someone to be in charge of these areas before the service. Wedding coordinators will be present during the service, but it is suggested that cards and gifts be loaded up shortly after the service ends.
Clean-up
It is the responsibility of the couple to provide someone to clean up the changing rooms, load up personal items, and take care of all decorations and service items immediately after the service.
Limo’s
If you choose to have a limousine pick you up from the church, they MUST enter from C St., park in front of the east Sanctuary exit, and exit onto Mohawk St.
SCHEDULING CONSIDERATIONS
All scheduling must be approved by the Pastor and the congregational Office Manager.
Saturday Weddings
The latest time we will schedule a wedding service is at 4:00 pm, due to our 5:30 pm Saturday evening worship services.
Non-Saturday Weddings
Couples may consider holding their wedding service on a day other than Saturday. Friday and Sunday weddings may be a better option for you and your loved ones. Please consult with the Pastor regarding this option.
Rehearsals
Rehearsals will take place the evening before the wedding. Plan on approximately one hour for the rehearsal. The wedding party is expected to be prompt for the rehearsal, as well as the wedding.
Worship elements
VOWS
Vows are promises made between the couple. They are meant to invoke one’s best intentions as you begin your life together. You may choose from the following pre-written vows or mix and match between them. You may write your own vows, as well. This option will require consultation and approval of the Pastor. Two things to keep in mind: 1)make sure they are written as promises, rather than expressions of love; and 2)you will each make the same promises to one another. We do not expect nor encourage you to memorize your vows.
I take you _____________ to be my wife/husband from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.
In the name of God, I ______________, take you ________________ to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
I take you, _____________, to be my wife/husband, and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and I will try with you to better understand ourselves, the world, and God; through the best and worst of what is to come until death parts us.
I take you, _____________, to be my wife/husband. I promise before God and these witnesses to be your faithful husband/wife, to share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, to forgive and strengthen you, and to join with you so that together we may serve God and others as long as we both shall live.
______________, I take you to be my wife/husband from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond, and in all circumstances of our life together to be loyal to you with my whole life and with all my being until death parts us.
Vows are promises made between the couple. They are meant to invoke one’s best intentions as you begin your life together. You may choose from the following pre-written vows or mix and match between them. You may write your own vows, as well. This option will require consultation and approval of the Pastor. Two things to keep in mind: 1)make sure they are written as promises, rather than expressions of love; and 2)you will each make the same promises to one another. We do not expect nor encourage you to memorize your vows.
I take you _____________ to be my wife/husband from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.
In the name of God, I ______________, take you ________________ to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.
I take you, _____________, to be my wife/husband, and these things I promise you: I will be faithful to you and honest with you; I will respect, trust, help and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will forgive you as we have been forgiven; and I will try with you to better understand ourselves, the world, and God; through the best and worst of what is to come until death parts us.
I take you, _____________, to be my wife/husband. I promise before God and these witnesses to be your faithful husband/wife, to share with you in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, to forgive and strengthen you, and to join with you so that together we may serve God and others as long as we both shall live.
______________, I take you to be my wife/husband from this time onward, to join with you and to share all that is to come, to give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond, and in all circumstances of our life together to be loyal to you with my whole life and with all my being until death parts us.
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Hymn Suggestions (not exhaustive list)
(Numbers from the Evangelical Lutheran Worship) *Inidicates favorites 308 *O Morning Star How Fair and Bright 312 Jesus, Come! For we invite you 413 *Holy, Holy, Holy! Lord God Almighty 488 Soul, Adorn Yourself With Gladness 512 *Lord, Let My Heart Be Good Soil 543 Go, My Children With My Blessing 546 To Be Your Presence 547 *Sent Fort by God’s Blessing 561 *Joyous Light of Heavenly Glory (for evening service) 585 Hear Us Now, Our God and Father 586 This is a Day, Lord, Gladly Awaited 597 My Hope Is Built on Nothing Less 627 *O Day Full of Grace (alternate texts) 631 *Love Divine, All Loves Excelling 637 *Holy God, Holy and Glorious 644 Although I Speak with Angel’s Tongue (1 Cor. 13) 645 Christ is Made the Sure Foundation 648 Beloved, God’s Chosen 655 Son of God, Eternal Savior 656 Blest Be the Tie that Binds 659 Will You Let Me Be Your Servant 665 *Rise, Shine, You People! 672 Signs and Wonders 678 God, Whose Giving Knows No Ending 685 Take My Life and Let it Be 688 Lord of Light 689 Praise and Thanksgiving 692 We Are an Offering 705 God of Grace and God of Glory 720 *We Are Called 731 *Earth and All Stars 732 *Borning Cry 744 *Lord, Be Glorified 765 *Lord of All Hopefulness 771 God, Who Stretched the Spangled Heavens 776 What God Ordains is Good Indeed 781 *Children of the Heavenly Father 789 Savior, Like a Shepherd Lead Us 793 *Be Thou My Vision 796 How Firm a Foundation 808 *Lord Jesus, You Shall Be My Song 813 Faith of Our Fathers (new wording) 816 Come, My Way, My Truth, My Life 821 Shout to the Lord 826 *Thine is the Glory 836 *Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee 840 Now Thank We All Our God 848 Give to Our God Immortal Praise! 851 *When in Our Music God is Glorified 855 Crown Him with Many Crowns 858 *Praise to the Lord, the Almighty 864 Praise my Soul, the God of Heaven 866 *We Are Marching in the Light (Siyahamba) 867 In thee is Gladness 870 We Praise You, O God 876 Let the Whole Creation Cry 878 *Soli Deo Gloria 879 For the Beauty of the Earth 881 *Let All Things Now Living 883 All People That on Earth do Dwell 886 Oh, for a Thousand Tongues to Sing |
Scripture Passage Suggestions (not exhaustive list)
Genesis 1: 26-31a Man and woman made in God’s image Genesis 2:18-22 Companionship instead of loneliness Ruth 1: 16-17 Where you will go I will go… Psalm 67 May God be merciful to us and bless us… Psalm 100 We are God’s people Psalm 145: 1-9 The LORD is gracious and merciful Ecclesiastes 4: 9-12 A threefold cord is not quickly broken. Isaiah 43: 1-7 You are precious in God’s eyes Isaiah 61:10-62:3 I will greatly rejoice in the LORD Matthew 5: 1-12a Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5: 13-16 You are the light of the world… Matthew 7: 24-27 Build on the rock Matthew 19: 4-6 What God has joined together, let no one separate. Matthew 22: 35-40 Love is the greatest commandment Mark 10: 6-9 No longer two but one Mark 10: 42-45 True greatness through serving each other John 2: 1-11 The wedding at Cana John 15: 9-17 Abide in my love Romans 8:31-35, 37-39 Nothing can separate us from the love of God in Christ Romans 12: 1-2, 9-18 Present your bodies as a living sacrifice 1 Corinthians 13: 1-13 Love is patient, love is kind… Ephesians 4: 1-6 …with patience, bearing with one another in love… Ephesians 4:32-5:2 Live in love as Christ loved us Philippians 4: 4-9 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. Colossians 2: 6-7 Continue to live rooted in Christ Colossians 3: 12-17 …in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus… 1 John 3: 1-2 See what love the Father has given us… 1 John 3: 18-24 Love in truth and action 1 John 4: 7-12 God is love 1 John 4: 16-19 We love because he first loved us Revelation 19:1, 5-9a The wedding feast of the Lamb |
wedding timeline countdown
After you’ve said, ‘yes’…
____ Call the church office and consult with the Office Manager regarding the availability of the church. S/he will ask for a $100 deposit and will refer you to the Pastor before the date for your wedding is confirmed. The office manager will also consult with the Director of Worship, Music and Arts and the Lead Wedding Coordinator to have a musician and coordinators assigned to you.
Within the following month…
____ Contact the pastor to confirm the dates of your wedding and rehearsal and make arrangements for the premarital counseling class.
____ Contact Director of Worship, Music, and Arts and Lead Coordinator to confirm dates and get connected with your assigned musician and wedding coordinators.
Four months and counting…
____ Contact your musician to discuss musical options and possibilities. This would also be the time to confirm any outside musicians you wish to bring in.
Three months to go…
____ Connect with your wedding coordinators to work through the details of your service. This information will be passed along to the Pastor.
One month (almost there!)…
____ Meet with the Pastor to finalize the details of the service and review the information in your bulletins or programs.
____ Produce your bulletins, purchase any candles that will be used in the worship space, and finalize any decorations for the worship space. It’s never too early to make sure pew bows fit, candles work, etc.
The Final Week…
____ Meet once more with the Pastor to walk through the service.
____ Bring the marriage license to the church—for the rehearsal, at the latest.
____ The remaining amount of fees will be expected to be paid at this time. Checks should be made out to “Our Saviour’s Lutheran Church.”
____ Call the church office and consult with the Office Manager regarding the availability of the church. S/he will ask for a $100 deposit and will refer you to the Pastor before the date for your wedding is confirmed. The office manager will also consult with the Director of Worship, Music and Arts and the Lead Wedding Coordinator to have a musician and coordinators assigned to you.
Within the following month…
____ Contact the pastor to confirm the dates of your wedding and rehearsal and make arrangements for the premarital counseling class.
____ Contact Director of Worship, Music, and Arts and Lead Coordinator to confirm dates and get connected with your assigned musician and wedding coordinators.
Four months and counting…
____ Contact your musician to discuss musical options and possibilities. This would also be the time to confirm any outside musicians you wish to bring in.
Three months to go…
____ Connect with your wedding coordinators to work through the details of your service. This information will be passed along to the Pastor.
One month (almost there!)…
____ Meet with the Pastor to finalize the details of the service and review the information in your bulletins or programs.
____ Produce your bulletins, purchase any candles that will be used in the worship space, and finalize any decorations for the worship space. It’s never too early to make sure pew bows fit, candles work, etc.
The Final Week…
____ Meet once more with the Pastor to walk through the service.
____ Bring the marriage license to the church—for the rehearsal, at the latest.
____ The remaining amount of fees will be expected to be paid at this time. Checks should be made out to “Our Saviour’s Lutheran Church.”
the bottom line
Pre-marital Counseling Fee $ 50
This includes the cost of the Prepare and Enrich inventory, as well as the cost for the pre-marital class, which covers printed resources and a light catered lunch.
Honorariums
Pastor $200
Musician $160
Wedding Coordinators $250
Custodial Fee $140
This includes your initial $100 deposit required in order to confirm the date of your wedding.
Total $800
Should you choose to use the facility for your reception, the following fees apply:
Fellowship Hall (seats up to 125)
Without Kitchen $100
With Kitchen $125
Custodial Set-up (additional) $ 25
Community Room (seats up to 72)
Without Kitchenette $ 50
With Kitchenette $ 75
Custodial Set-up (additional) $ 25
Schedule of Payment
This includes the cost of the Prepare and Enrich inventory, as well as the cost for the pre-marital class, which covers printed resources and a light catered lunch.
Honorariums
Pastor $200
Musician $160
Wedding Coordinators $250
Custodial Fee $140
This includes your initial $100 deposit required in order to confirm the date of your wedding.
Total $800
Should you choose to use the facility for your reception, the following fees apply:
Fellowship Hall (seats up to 125)
Without Kitchen $100
With Kitchen $125
Custodial Set-up (additional) $ 25
Community Room (seats up to 72)
Without Kitchenette $ 50
With Kitchenette $ 75
Custodial Set-up (additional) $ 25
Schedule of Payment
- An initial deposit of $100 is required immediately in order to reserve the date for your wedding service.
- The remainder of the fees are due during the week preceding your wedding (no later than your rehearsal day). Please make checks out to “Our Saviour’s Lutheran Church.”
- Cancelled weddings: at least 3 months prior to scheduled date are eligible for reimbursement of all but $100 deposit; between 3 months and 1 month prior are eligible for reimbursement of half the charged amount; within 1 month of date are still expected to pay full price.
- If you need to postpone your wedding, the amount already paid will be put toward new date.